Experiences you may encounter in a Bipolar relationship:
* Your partner asks ‘what did you do today’ and you fear you forgot to mention something that they will discover later such as ‘oh, I saw an old friend when I was at the Starbucks’. They somehow find out later (like being at Starbucks a few days later with your partner and you see the old friend again and the old friend says something like ‘wow we keep bumping into each other lately’) and your partner becomes LIVID that you ‘hid’ that previous ‘hello’ from them – this may ruin your whole rest of the day with your partner – and may come up in future discussions.
* Your partner uses anger to motivate you to give them money.
* Your partner may say ‘I Love You’ more times than seems appropriate, especially after an outburst. This may be done to make any angry outbursts, jealous rages, or controlling behaviors seem to come from a ‘loving’ place. This also stems from past relationships (usually very many) so they say I Love You so that when their anger, jealousy comes out, you wont pack up and leave one day.
* Your partner may say things like ‘you need to be aware of my anger triggers’ – you may feel you are walking on eggshells around them. They may tell you just TELL ME EVERYTHING and stop lying and you can avoid this ANGER. Puts the blame on YOU, as if YOU are the cause of their moodiness.
* Your partner may not seem interested or show indifference in somethings you say – may not understand humor.
* Your partner may ask you to account for every minute of your day, often wanting to match what YOU say with phone records, looking for that inconsistency such as you say you were called by the mechanic at 10:30am but the phone records show 10:20am (which means YOU LIED!!!)
* Your partner may have many many failed relationships in their past.
* Your partner may dislike any activity you do by yourself, such as watching football, or reading a book.
* Your partner may always say they want to include you in EVERY activity they do and expect the same in return – meaning they prevent you from having your own interests and see separate interests as selfish.
If you constantly think “What did I do to cause this behavior??” you should be aware that Bipolar Disorder is not something another person can control.